I had to be careful in titling this episode, because there's no real "fix" for bad habits in others. (Especially kids, as any parent knows.) All we can do is try to discourage the behavior.
But what form should that discouragement take, and how can we help to make it easier for our little ones to kick those habits? After all, we've all been there, right? Kicking a habit is hard, frustrating work, no matter what age you are.
In today's episode, I'm addressing the "big three" habitual behaviors that kids exhibit, and I'll give you some tips for breaking the compulsion in ways that are both effective and compassionate.
New parents are often warned about "The 3 month sleep regression" or "The 9 month sleep regression."
Really, you can substitute any number you want and you'll have no trouble finding corroboration that there's a sleep regression that happens around that age.
But in my experience, there are causes for sleep regressions that have nothing to do with age.
Today, I'll be discussing the three biggest reasons why your little one might suddenly break away from their carefully crafted routine, and what you can do to help get them back on track.
"Be a good girl!" "Do you need a time-out?" Make sure you say thank you!"
The way we talk to our kids is so generic, it could be coming from a handbook. We tell them to behave responsibly, to be considerate of others, and to be mindful of their actions, but is the message we're trying to communicate the one they're receiving?
My guest today, Jennifer Lehr, is the author of ParentSpeak: What's Wrong with How We Talk to Our Children--and What to Say Instead, and she's sharing her thoughts on the traditional approaches to communicating with kids, how kids actually interpret them, and how we can improve our communication tools to be more respectful and effective in talking to our children.
For a lot of parents I've worked with, room-sharing is straight-up indisputable. Just not always in the same way.
Many parents feel that their baby absolutely has to be in the room with them. Not necessarily in the same bed, but definitely the same room.
Others, myself included, decided early on that baby was going to sleep in their own room, and that the issue wasn't up for debate.
The choice is, obviously, up to you, but it's important to understand what you're taking on when you allow your little one into your bedroom. There are a lot of pros, a lot of cons, and a lot of things you might not have considered.
I'll be talking all about the benefits and drawbacks in this week's episode.